The father of the righteous shall greatly rejoice: and he that begetteth a wise child shall have joy of him. Thy father and thy mother shall be glad, and she that bare thee shall rejoice. (Proverbs 23:24-25)
Why do we do this to our children?
Why do we stuff them into box, determined to make them what we think they should be? Our carbon copy. Our duplicate. Walk in my steps.
That's all well and good until your child likes something you don't. Then what?
Society as a whole is just as guilty. Kids should go to school this many years. Attend college that many years. Get a certain job. Work a certain way. Have a certain retirement. Marry the perfect person. Have two and three-quarter kids.
So often the pressure they feel is of our own making. Why can't my daughter, your son, his grandchild, her niece be exactly who God has for them to be?
What if God's plan for his or her life doesn't follow the schedule you've set up for them? What if you wake up one day and they do something so far outside of anything you've ever expected and you find yourself looking back amazed?
We should free them to follow their dreams, to live within godly rules, listen to godly wisdom, learn to pray and believe and stand in faith, but at the same time do whatever it is He has planned, not us. We should stop looking down our noses because she doesn't go to classes or he decides to work there instead of here.
You don't realize you're doing it to them, but you are.
The truth is, it's okay to be an introvert, an extrovert, an outsider, an insider. God can work with whatever personality you gave them. He can protect them, fulfill them, impel them. He can mold whatever they are into a vessel fit for His use and blow your mind with their potential.
He did it with you. So you do it for them.
Suzanne D. Williams
Suzanne Williams Photography
Suzanne Williams is a native Floridian, wife, and mother, with a penchant for spelling anything, who happens to love photography.